If you are one of the ones that is seeking the love of a Russian woman or for those that are using a K1 Fiance visa to bring their fiance to the U.S.A, there are a few things you need to know about the woman of your dreams. Often times a man will bring a woman to the America through a K1 Fiance visa and when she gets here he has a hard time trying to understand her. By the time a man is working through the Green Card with his new spouse, he may feel like he made a mistake marrying her. In all the Green Card is stressful enough without also having to try and understand your new spouse.

So if you have found the woman of your dreams and you have been bitten by the Russian love bug, then this article is going to help you understand your Russian love.

Once I began to travel to other countries, I soon discovered that the word cultural was completely subjective. In Russia what is considered to be OK for the Russian culture, is usually not the case in other countries. Often times Russian culture is considered to be rude or odd. It works the other way around too, because before I came to America I believed in a widespread stereotype that Americans have absolutely no culture.

It was later that I found it comical that many U.S citizens found Russians to be uncultured as well. Both parties have reasons to think that, because their cultures are defined by their society, by its customs, traditions and beliefs and unless someone is interculturally competent and travels widely, it is hard to understand why people from other cultures don’t do it the same way we do. Some things may seem obvious to us, but they might seem absurd for the people from other countries.

For example, one of the first things that Russians notice when they come to the U.S. is that people are not dressed well. Appearance (especially women’s) matters a lot to people, so they would spend their last money on hairdressers, make-up and fashionable clothes.

Go to a restaurant in Russia and you will notice that all are dressed up. Russians feel good about themselves when they dress up and it is also respectful to others that come to the restaurant. I remember how shocked my Russian friends were when they went to a U.S. restaurant for the first time. They were celebrating their wedding anniversary, so they were dressed up in an evening dress and suit. My female friend called me as soon as they got out of there. She said: “You wouldn’t believe what just happened. There were people at a restaurant wearing sweatshirts and jeans. We felt like idiots, because everyone was staring at us. Why are Americans are so uncultured?”

I didn’t know what to respond to that. I didn’t think Americans were uncultured, because I lived here for a while and learned that culture was defined completely differently. I just advised that next time they go to a restaurant they should go to an upscale one if they want to have the same experience as they did in Russia.

For many that live in the U.S.A it is more important to be comfortable and have conveniences than to dress up or put a lot of effort in beauty. “Why are you always wearing high heels? Aren’t you uncomfortable?”- an American friend of mine asked me. “Beauty requires sacrifice.” I would quote a popular Russian saying, but she would just shake her head.

Traveling to Russia will bring you in contact with many rude and uncaring people. But there is a reason why Russians are like this with each other. The cashiers at the store will never smile at you and if you need to ask for directions or need help with something, people on the street are rather aggressive, unhelpful and very unfriendly.

To smile at someone can have many different reasons and results, it is not part of the Russian culture. If a guy on a street smiles at a girl or vice versa it means he is interested in her. Otherwise it is unacceptable for strangers to greet each other and smile at each other and it can be misinterpreted.

Finally Americans find Russians to be rude and odd when greeting each other. For American’s it is inportant to acknowledge each other everytime you come in contact, for Russians this is not the case. “They greet you only once and all other times they just walk by you pretending that they don’t see you.” It is true that Russians greet each other only once during the day, and they on another hand don’t understand why their American coworkers say Hi and smile every time they see them. They often feel awkward.

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